Couples Therapy
in Westminster, Colorado
the Denver Metro, and online throughout Colorado
Sometimes the relationship isn't falling apart. It's caught in a pattern neither of you can seem to interrupt.
Does this feel familiar?
The same conversation. Different words. Same ending. You leave wondering...
"How did we end up here again?"
You love each other, but you don't feel understood. One of you reaches. The other pulls away. Small moments become big arguments. Old hurts seem to appear out of nowhere.
No matter how hard you try... the same cycle keeps finding you.
It usually isn't one of you.
Most couples arrive believing one person is the problem.
One is too emotional.
One is too distant.
One communicates too much.
One not enough.
But more often than not...
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The problem isn't either of you.
It's the pattern between you.
Over time, that pattern begins making decisions for both of you.
You stop responding to each other.
You begin responding to the cycle.
What our work together will often look like
Notice the pattern.
Not just what happened, but how it keeps happening.
My Approach
I don't believe healthy relationships come from learning the perfect communication technique. Lasting change happens when couples begin to understand the patterns that keep them stuck, recognize the emotions and needs beneath those patterns, and learn new ways of reaching for one another. The approaches below help guide that process, allowing us to tailor our work to the unique strengths of your relationship.
Every relationship is unique. Some couples are navigating challenges that are better understood through the lens of their identities, relationship structure, or lived experiences. If that's true for you, you may find one of these pages especially helpful.
LGBTQ+ Couples Therapy
Couples therapy for LGBTQ+ partners seeking deeper connection, healthier communication, and support navigating conflict, intimacy, life transitions, and the unique experiences of queer relationships.
Polyamory & ENM Therapy
Affirming therapy for polyamorous, open, and ethically non-monogamous relationships focused on communication, boundaries, attachment, and relational growth.
Frequently Asked Questions
How long does couples therapy usually last?
There isn't a one-size-fits-all answer. Some couples come with a specific issue they'd like to work through over a few months, while others choose therapy as an ongoing space for deeper growth and connection. During our first few sessions, we'll get a clearer sense of what you're hoping for and what pace feels appropriate. My goal isn't to keep you in therapy indefinitely, but to help you build the understanding and flexibility that allows your relationship to continue growing outside the therapy room.
Do you see LGBTQ+ couples?
Yes. I provide queer-affirming couples therapy and welcome LGBTQ+ couples, including those in same-gender relationships, mixed-orientation relationships, and consensually non-monogamous (ENM) relationships.
My office is intended to be a place where you don't have to educate your therapist about your identity before you can begin talking about your relationship.
Can we come if only one of us wants therapy?
Both partners have to consent to couples therapy before we can begin our work. It's common for one partner to feel more ready than the other. You don't both have to arrive equally enthusiastic for therapy to be worthwhile, but you both have to agree to the process.
That said, meaningful change becomes more possible when both partners are willing to stay curious, about each other, and about themselves and the patterns you've developed together. My role isn't to convince either of you who's right. It's to create a space where both of you can begin seeing the relationship more clearly.
Do you work with affairs or betrayal?
Yes. Whether you're recovering from an affair, another form of betrayal, or a significant rupture in trust, therapy can provide a structured space to slow down what happened and understand its impact.
Rebuilding trust isn't about pretending the hurt didn't happen or rushing toward forgiveness. It involves making sense of the relationship that existed before the rupture, understanding what each partner experienced, and gradually creating new experiences of honesty, accountability, and emotional safety. Some couples ultimately rebuild their relationship. Others gain clarity about a different path forward. My role is to help you navigate that process thoughtfully rather than push you toward a predetermined outcome.
What if we're considering separation?
Couples don't have to know whether they want to stay together before beginning therapy.
Some couples come hoping to repair the relationship. Others arrive genuinely uncertain.
Some couples come in understanding that separation is ultimately the right choice. In these cases, my hope is to provide a space where it happens with greater clarity and compassion rather than as another chapter in the same painful pattern.
If something here feels familiar...
Sometimes that's enough to know where to begin.
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You don't need to have everything figured out before reaching out.
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If you'd like to explore whether we're a good fit, I'd be happy to meet with you for a free 15-minute consultation.
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